So it has been a while that I have written and boy do I have a lot to say.
First off — why is it that when you find someone who seems very normal, extremely intelligent, funny and genuinely interested in you that the little red flags aren’t going up in your head? Well, it is because you feel that maybe — just maybe —- this one might be it!!! WRONG!!! Honestly, I have to tell you that what just happened to me is pretty unbelievable. (at least for me it is).
So, I met this guy on line. Good looking, divorced (at least that is what he stated), well educated and very interested in meeting me. Let’s say his name is Dan. Well, I set up a time and place for Dan to meet me. Everything goes very very well. He seems genuine and of course , I have checked him out and he is who he says he is and does what he says he does for a living. During our meeting he shows me an article in a magazine about —well let’s just say it is something very special to him that he had designed and built along with his wife a couple years ago. There is his picture and name listed and it was quite impressive. Let me back up for a second and say that on his profile it stated that he was divorced — but that wasn’t true. He was in the midst of getting a divorce! Small item that could be a big one ladies!!! So we spend a good part of the day together. He is in no way pushy and I feel very comfortable around him. We part ways and he tells me that he will be calling me and he does as soon as he arrives home. Then he proceeds to call me and text me, not overly, just enough over the next 4 days. It was very nice. We had good conversation. I mean some of them were deep meaningful conversations. It was refreshing from the last guy I had “Mr. Italian Stallion” who could do nothing more than talk about sex and sex acts.!!!
So he tells me from the start that he wants to see me the next weekend. OK, so I start figuring out what we can do and lo and behold Thursday night comes and he calls me really late and is different! He said it was because he was fatigued and very upset that he couldn’t see me this weekend because he had to move. He’d been living in a cabin(?) of a friend and needed to move into town. Sounded plausible to me! We even texted on Friday and Saturday and talked on Sunday while he was moving. Everything seemed fine. OH yes, and I had been told that I WAS HIS NEWEST ADDICTION! Because he looked forward to talking with me so much, I made him happy and he appreciated all the time I took to talk with him and discuss matters.
So Monday came and went — no contact. But hey, that’s ok right?? He’s got his life I’ve got mine. Tuesday morning I wake up and turn on my phone to find this text from him.
I have to tell you that I have met someone else that I have just totally connected with. Never had this before. Sorry, I hope this doesn’t hurt you too badly. WHAT THE F%$^!!!! Is pretty much what I said and felt.
Hold the boat! So everything was honkey dorey up until Sunday and within 24 hours he FINDS THE ONE!!! Well halleluiah and praise God.
Boy, that was fast work on his part. But the worst was yet to come.
First ladies, we all deserve to be told in person or at least over the phone NOT BY TEXT OR E-MAIL! So I texted the bastard back and told him OK, well this is not exactly what I expected to wake up to but YES I was upset by I guessed I would have to say GOOD LUCK to him.
He had the balls (then) to text me back and say “You are a beautiful woman !” My answer was “Right”. He text again. “No you really are and I am going to miss our morning greetings!” THAT’S IT!!!
I told him — Well, you now have another woman who you have connected with — get her to text you and there you have your problem solved!
Can you believe the nerve of someone like that. What hurts the most in this type of situation is you let yourself believe!! Believe that he might be the one, believe that he really understood you and that you mattered. Guess not!!!
Then just today I met up with someone, let’s call him Dick, at a site and he exchanged numbers to text tonight. Again, looked like a nice guy. Seemed ok at first. but then –mother of God — what a control freak that wouldn’t trust his own mother. The attitude was he was right and I was wrong. And we got off to a bad start. So, I gave it another shot but it didn’t make it any better. I told him that I would call him at 8. He was agreeable to that. So in the meantime, I went back online to check out his profile again and see if I had missed something!!!??? He texts me and says “You are one smooth operator!” I am like WHAT?? I see you are online checking out other guys and you going to be talking to me in 15 minutes! REALLY?!?!?!?!? Too weird. So I told him thanks but no thanks, you obviously have trust issues. He said fine and I figured that was that. But NOOOOOOOOO a half hour later he texts me again. Why do you think I don’t trust you? ARRRGGGHHHHH. Leave me alone!!!
Ladies be warned —-there are way too many crazies out there. Choose your partner wisely. If you think he is alittle crazy —- then he probably is! LOL